Let’s face it guys few of us really ooze confidence, especially when it comes to approaching a woman we like. By following these dating tips for shy guys you can help to overcome the fear and anxiety that you feel when it comes to the fairer sex. Shyness can be a debilitating issue that can impact our ability to be happy and successful when dating.
Fortunately it doesn’t have to be this way. Lots of guys have at least some level of shyness when it comes to approaching women. The key to being able to date is not to overcome your shyness, which is virtually impossible, but instead to control it so that it is manageable.
The following dating tips for shy guys should prove useful as you learn to control your shyness and get more comfortable around women.
1. Try to relax
While this is easier said than done, it’s very important that you relax when you are either approaching a woman, or you are on an actual date with her. Simply put, you want the woman to get the feeling that you have done this before, and that you are confident in yourself. If you speak to a woman and are obviously nervous then chances are pretty good that she will pick up on this. Taking time to relax before a date, wearing something you look good and feel comfortable in, taking some deep breaths, visualising something that calms you and having some open ended questions at hand can all help.
2. Humor is your friend
If you’ve got it use it. Using humor to break the ice when you are either approaching a woman for the first time, or are on a date, is a proven way to open things up between the two of you. And random questions can work too and spark interest, that is if your humor is random. When you are dating and suffer from shyness then keeping conversation light is a way to help alleviate the tension that you may be feeling. So make sure that you use humor in a tasteful way so that you can make conversation easier on yourself as well as your date.
3. Be confident – Fake it to make it
Women want to be with a man that is sure of himself. Make sure that you act with confidence and that you show the woman you are with that you are certain of yourself. Fake it until you make it works here. Making eye contact combined with a smile can go along way and this is something you can practice in your daily life. There are lots of every day opportunities in cafes, the supermarket, even as you walk along the street.
Having some interesting open ended questions prepared for a date can be a real boost. Women like to be asked about themselves, it makes them fell more attractive and as women will tell you it’s not unusual for her date to ask very little about her – so it will also make you stand out. If you ask genuine polite open ended questions and then listen attentively to their reply you can ask further questions and the conversation will start flow.
4. Be yourself.
One of the biggest reasons that people are nervous on dates is that they are trying to put up a false front in order to impress their date. The problem with this is that it’s impossible to maintain long term. So instead of driving yourself crazy by trying to be someone that you aren’t, be yourself. This doesn’t mean that you have to be totally open from the moment you meet someone new. Instead it means that you should allow your natural personality to show, this will also enable you to better gauge how compatible the two of you are. And remember, a little shyness can be an attractive quality too – simply practice finding ways to be more comfortable within yourself.