In social situations, whether it’s a date, a party or going to the boss’s house for dinner, we often think we need to act a certain way and spend so much time trying to figure out how to act that we often forget how to be ourselves. Here are five little tricks to get back to who you are when dating. Because guess who was invited on the date, the party or the boss’s house? YOU.
1. Focus on the other person – be curiously engaged
Find out about them. If you become interested in other people, you get out of your head. This is especially useful to take the nerves out of a date situation or speed dating, and also helps the other person feel relaxed and that as a potential partner you are interested in them.
Forget about worrying about how you’re coming across. Practice it today with a colleague or a friend you run into or the cute woman at the local shop who sells you the newspaper. It can be a simple “How are you?”, and meaning it.
2. There’s nothing wrong
Remember, there’s nothing wrong, including there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s next-to-impossible to be yourself when you’re caught up in constantly wondering “Do they think I’m funny? Does she think I’m fat? Do they think I’m dumb? Am I good/clever/popular enough to be a part of their group of friends?”
3. Physically smile
It doesn’t matter if you feel like doing so or not. The physical action of turning up the corners of your mouth makes you feel good. Do it right now and notice what happens to your mood instantaneously.
4. They have feelings too
Remind yourself that the other person is probably as fearful/nervous/uncomfortable as you no matter how confident they come across. Give yourself the task of putting them at ease!
There’s no need to worry about what might happen, you’ll never know, especially in social situations. You fall flat on your face, so what? Let’s say you literally fall flat on your face – that’s funny.
The most attractive quality a person can have is the ability to laugh at themselves and not take themselves
too seriously. It lets others know that you’re not perfect and puts them, and you, more at ease.
The bottom line?
Remember the words of Oscar Wilde – “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken!”
Post by Meyoo Blogger The Divine Miss T